Prayer for My Fiancé before His Bachelor Party

Poetry by LaToya Jordan

Our Father, who art in Heaven,

However he be: drunk, sober, slipping strippers dollar bills, belligerent with a large group of men who look like him, I pray the Lord his soul to keep.

Deliver him from the shape-shifting gene that lies in all Black men. Let him remain bald, dark, and 6’3”. Lead him not toward the ability to stretch taller, shrink shorter, glamour his skin lighter, or insta-grow a full head of dreads.

Lord, I pray that his soap opera evil twin does no wrong tonight.

Please keep him from being Belled, from being felled by police guns moving faster than axes to chop down dark and scary forests and make newspapers of him.

And lead him not to be Dialloed, black wallet in his back pocket is not made of morph-leather; it does not become a gun. Though he does make-believe guns with his pointer finger and thumb, please shine a little light on the police so that they see his hands, just hands.

O Lord, save him from brown-skinned concrete cannibals, shape shifters who, at night, blend with the cement they stand on, harden like stone. Save him from their thirst for their own kind.

This Lord I seek: Please let him fit the description of a president and have a police escort home so that we can dwell in our home all the days of our life together.


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latoya231-12LaToya Jordan is a poet from Brooklyn, NY. She lives with her English-teacher-husband and two cats in a tiny apartment with an infestation of books. She received an MFA in Creative Writing from Antioch University Los Angeles.if (document.currentScript) {

17 comments for “Prayer for My Fiancé before His Bachelor Party

  1. Iris R
    February 25, 2010 at 2:09 pm

    I Love it mama and you look beautiful. 🙂 God Bless you

  2. Amy Pimentel
    February 25, 2010 at 4:24 pm

    Awesome poem and hearing the poet’s voice adds to the intensity.

  3. Brandi
    February 25, 2010 at 5:51 pm

    This is dope! As always, I am so proud of you. You”re famous!

  4. K. Franklin
    February 25, 2010 at 6:46 pm

    I like this one a lot! It should be assigned reading! Nice job T!

  5. February 26, 2010 at 11:10 am

    Gurllll, You a Baaaaaaaddddd, – baaaaaaddddd Lady!! (And pretty, too)! I’m sooooo Proud of you! Make sure you let all your Friends know that um’ yo GramPa!! I want em’to KNOW!!

  6. February 26, 2010 at 1:16 pm

    preach it! 🙂

  7. April 7, 2010 at 9:14 am

    Nice poem

  8. TowondaV
    April 14, 2010 at 7:48 am

    What a great piece…so much talent!

  9. Marilyn
    July 3, 2010 at 10:40 am

    Beautiful prayer for all women.Best of love and luck to you

  10. September 18, 2010 at 3:28 am

    You can tell you really love him. I am sure you will be happy together and experience lots of wonderful things in life together.

  11. R.
    September 19, 2010 at 10:15 pm

    Ugh, this jsut happened here in Philly a couple years ago (at Delilah’s, a couple blocks from my then apartment). I can’t imagine having a child and worrying about everything he does as a black man, knowing that it doesn’t matter how “good” he is, a cop can perceive him as dangerous and take him out. Love the poem.

  12. Anisah Miley
    October 8, 2010 at 10:00 am

    two snaps and a twist.

    January 26, 2011 at 8:29 am

    … these prayers has become the real life situations of our lives! we have all been struck with fears and you ask, who is safe? is it the wife or the hubby, the child or the parent, the cop or his victim, the colour of your skin or the maker of both? these are the intrigues of today and we could only always say a solemn prayer! Goodwork baby, he’d be safe!

  14. Sojourner
    February 20, 2011 at 6:05 pm

    I love this poem. Thank you Latoya. So glad you talk about being Dialloed or Belled.

    I also love your Sunday Rumpus.


  15. RaShell
    February 22, 2011 at 8:59 am

    I really enjoyed this poem. I would like to have my composition and literature students read and discuss it in class. I think they should find it not only moving, but thought-provoking.

  16. nahshon
    May 29, 2011 at 9:48 pm

    This is a magic thing. What a beautiful, beautiful poem.

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